OK, so I’ll start this post off by saying that you need to leave any prudishness at the door. This isn’t your average dating post. I’ll be delving into the world of BDSM dating – a niche dating style that isn’t for the faint hearted!
What does BDSM mean?
First off, I thought it might be a good idea to clarify what is meant by BDSM. I’ve written a little before about this topic, but I’ll explain things in a little more depth here for those who aren’t familiar with the term.
BDSM dating refers to quite a wide range of dating styles, but it’s mostly characterised by erotic acts and role play. It’s not your average meet up at the pub for a drink kind of dating (although there’s no reason why the two can’t go hand in hand).
When it comes to a BDSM date, the chances are that there will be role play, toys and maybe even costumes involved. It can involve bondage, dominance and submission and all kinds of role play.
How can you get into the BDSM scene?
If you think that you might like to find bdsm dates, then you might be wondering where on earth to start, particularly if you don’t already know anybody involved in the scene.
The first place to look is on bdsm dating sites. If you’re new to this, then you might be surprised to learn that these niche dating sites even exist, but there’s a big market for them. Using a dating site is perfect if you’re a little bit unsure (which many people are, to begin with). It means that you don’t have to put yourself out there until you’re fully happy with going ahead. You can take your time, get chatting with people and figure out exactly what it is that you’re looking for.
Dating sites are obviously really handy at the moment too as we’re still living with various restrictions thanks to the global Covid-19 pandemic. Dating sites and virtual dates keep us safe in our own homes and allow us to get chatting with new people without breaking any of the lockdown rules.
Once you’ve dipped your toe into the water (and local Covid restrictions allow), you can then start to think about maybe arranging a date. Your first experience is bound to be daunting but it can also be an incredibly exciting experience too.
No matter how experienced you are with BDSM dating, it’s always important to be one hundred percent clear about what you’re ok with during this very niche kind of date. You could set up a safe word so that your dating partner knows when to stop before they cross the line.
As with any date, your first priority must be your safety. But it’s also really important that you try to relax and let yourself enjoy your date, that’s what it’s all about after all! So get yourself signed up to one of the niche dating sites and see where it takes you!
*Collaborative post.
